The author says embracing the chaos of having two kids is the only way to survive. Courtesy of the author Becoming a mom of two has been one of the hardest transitions of my life. Parenting one more child feels like you are parenting about six more. Embracing the chaos has been the only way to survive. When I was a mom of one , I nailed motherhood. I was calm and patient; my child was well-dressed; the car was pristine; the chores were completed; and there was very little shouting. But as a mom of two, I just can't parent to the same standards. Everything is messier, louder, more rushed, less organized, and good enough, just has to be enough. Going from one child to two has, without a doubt, been one of, if not the hardest, adjustments of my entire life . One plus one does not equal two in this scenario. As a mom to a 1.5-year-old, a 3.5-year-old, a 16-year-old stepson, and two needy cats, it sometimes feels like I care for a dozen creatures. I thought I was prepared Wh...